Proverbs 31:10-31 describes the excellent wife. The first three verses set the tone for her activities as a wife:
"An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
And he will have no lack of gain.
All the days of her life."
The last verses put this in perspective of her relationship with God and her worth as an individual in her own right:
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
And let her works praise her in the gates."
Her excellence in relationships comes out of her fear of the Lord. Her love for her husband is rooted in her relationship with God. Thus, she is able to give, even when she realizes that our earthly relationships are not perfect and always have room to grow. She finds her ultimate security in God.
Not every woman who is a keeper of the home is married. Perhaps, you are a young girl living with your family who is studying what it means to be a keeper of the home. Perhaps, you are a single woman making her first home. Perhaps, you are widowed or are a single mother. Yet, we all want to do our best to have godly and satisfying relationships. We also, if we are Christians, are all part of the bride of Christ (along with men who are Christians), and we want to do our best to be good stewards of the life the Lord has given us. If you are not married, you can still apply some principles of good relationships to your home life and to your life in general.
In the next couple of weeks, we will be discussing relationships in general and the marriage relationship in specific.
Three quick things to ponder:
1) We don't want to be controllers of people, but lovers of people.
2) We are to love our children, but not to the point that we neglect our marriage, if we are married. Our children will grow up and leave, but we are wedded to our husbands for all of our lives.
3) Good relationships take prayer and investment; they don't just happen. On the other hand, it's great to keep the spontaneity in a relationship, as well. When we say that relationships require investment, we're not talking about over-planning or overly trying to control someone else.
Happy Home Keeping!